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Asshole of the Week
Posted by Reddit user Prize_Brief7347:
Our OP was appointed Best Man for his best friend’s wedding and intended for the bachelor party to take place at a nearby strip club. The groom used to enjoy going to the strip club with his friends but stopped going when he started dating his now-fiancée. The groom approached OP and said that the bachelor party shouldn’t be at a strip club since it would make his fiancée uncomfortable. (I think you know where this is going.) OP proceeded to tell the groom, “F**k what she thinks then. If you’re ok with this then we are doing it. None of her business what we plan and she doesn’t have to know.” The groom stood his ground, saying that there would be no bachelor party if it included a strip club. The bride and groom are both angry with OP, but the groomsmen have all sided with OP.
Our Opinion: YTA. OP is encouraging the groom to be disloyal to his soon-to-be wife. While some women might be okay with their fiancé going to a strip club for his bachelor party, this particular woman is not. Couples have to respect each others’ boundaries in order to function, but OP is only thinking about planning a fun night and not considering the possible repercussions, nor is he respecting his best friend’s relationship.
This submission comes from our very own co-hostess, Sara! (Don’t be shy, people—submit your Asshole in the Wild stories. We can keep them anon if you want to.) Here we go:
Small assholes but assholes nonetheless. I landed at JFK airport after an international trip and went to customs, as ya do. There was a pretty long line for non-Global Entry holders (I know, I need to get it). Anyway, the line snaked around a bunch of retractable barricades, that kind of thing. That line was packed, meanwhile, next to it there was an entire empty line-maze designated for active military and diplomats. I finally got to the front (it took maybe half an hour, so it def could have been worse) and right when I’m about to get called to speak to an agent, a whole family comes waltzing through the empty military line! They go right up to the front and ask the woman directing people in line, “Is this the line for customs?” (For the record, this family appeared to be native English speakers and could definitely have read one of the MANY signs indicating where the line started.) Instead of directing this family to the back of the line, the employee let them cut all the way in front to talk to the next available agent! I couldn’t believe they got to cut the whole line just by playing dumb. Maybe I’ll try it next time.
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Validation
Posted by Reddit user SaltyShock7210:
AITA for not letting my baby daddy’s fiance name our baby?
Our OP (27F) explained that she is sleeping with both Jasper (25M) and Maddy (23F), an engaged couple (but the three of them are not partners). OP is 24 weeks pregnant with Jasper’s (25M) child. A year prior to this pregnancy, Jasper and Maddy lost a child. OP stated that she set three rules: 1) OP is not a surrogate. The child is hers and Jasper’s, and Maddy will be the child’s step-mother; 2) Maddy is not going to be in the delivery room; 3) Maddy can’t make any major decisions about the child without Jasper and OP. The trio has done their best to communicate and make the process as smooth as possible. However, when it came time to choose names for the baby, Maddy said that she wanted the child’s middle name to be her father’s name. OP and Jasper did not love this idea, as it seemed very personal to Maddy. OP said she would consider, but wasn’t sure about it. The conversation ended in an argument wherein Maddy expressed her distaste for what was happening, since she wasn’t as involved as she would like to be. Jasper and Maddy argued, and Maddy left entirely.
Our opinion: NTA. The bottom line is that OP is the mother of the child, and Jasper is the father. Maddy will, of course, be in the child’s life but even Jasper, her fiancé, seems uncomfortable with the idea of Maddy deciding the middle name. Ultimately, bigger decisions such as the middle name are for the immediate parents of the child to decide.
Top Comment: “NTA you should probably consult with a family lawyer because this woman is going to try and steal your baby” - Reddit user SnooCookies10
Posted by Reddit user saltlyfe12:
AITA for refusing to go to my GF’s sister’s wedding because of a basketball tournament?
This post felt like something out of a sitcom. OP (26M) is a big fan of March Madness to the point of taking work off for the tournament. He likes to get together for the tournament with his friends and make brackets. OP’s girlfriend Lindsay (26F) has a sister, Carolyn (30F), who was getting ready for her third wedding. OP says that he “wasn’t shocked” when he found out about the third wedding, believing that Carolyn is a “messy person and the problem,” but agreed to be an usher before the date was decided. Once they set the date, OP realized that it would be during the March Madness tournament and decided he wouldn’t attend. When asked why, OP shamelessly told the truth. Lindsay tried to convince him to go with her because she needed him there, but OP said that he wouldn’t go because March Madness is a once-a-year deal. Lindsay and OP were at odds, and OP said that he “would go to Carolyn’s fourth wedding.”
Our opinion: YTA. March Madness happens every year and OP’s girlfriend won’t necessarily need him to be at a family event next year. A wedding is, traditionally, more important than basketball.
Top Comment: “YTA. March Madness happens every year, your sister-in-law probably only has another 2 or 3 weddings left in her.” - Reddit user ResponsibiltyNo3245
